Heal Lift
As the festive air fills with twinkling lights, joyous melodies, and the promise of merriment, it's easy to get swept away by the collective narrative of celebration and merriment during the holidays. Yet, amidst the carols and cheer, it's vital to acknowledge that not everyone experiences this season through the same lens of celebration. For many, the holidays are not a seamless tapestry of happiness; they're a mosaic of emotions, with patches of struggle and silent battles. A survey conducted by the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) found that 64 percent of individuals living with a mental illness reported that their conditions worsened around the holidays. For many people the holiday season is not always the most wonderful time of the year said NAMI medical director Ken Duckworth. What the survey shows is a tremendous need for people to reach out and watch out for each other in keeping with the spirit of the season. So, if you are feeling isolated with your struggles this holiday season, just remember that you are not alone!
In the weeks ahead, social media feeds will likely be adorned with snapshots of the year's triumphs and tales of cherished memories. It's a beautiful testament to personal accomplishments and joyful moments, but let's remember that every story doesn't fit into this frame. For some, navigating through 2023 might have been about resilience, simply trying to fight the battles life threw at them. And if your greatest victory was merely surviving this year, please know: that's more than okay. You're still worthy. Your journey, your perseverance it all matters.
In the whirlwind of festivities, it's essential to extend compassion not just to others, but to ourselves. If the season's exhilarating energy feels overwhelming or if your spirit is burdened by the weight of challenges, it's okay to take a step back. Sometimes, self-care involves acknowledging our limits and granting ourselves the grace to honor our emotions authentically. Here are a few practices to consider in order to help your mental health , especially if you're finding the holiday season to be a challenging time:
1. Embrace Reflection: Instead of solely focusing on accomplishments, take moments to reflect on personal growth. Acknowledge the hurdles you've overcome, the lessons learned, and the strength gained from facing adversity, and applause yourself for it!
2. Practice Self-Compassion: Be gentle with yourself. Allow room for emotions, whether they're of joy or sadness. Give yourself permission to feel and process your experiences without judgment. Always remember that your feelings are valid!
3. Set Boundaries: It's alright to say no. Prioritize your well-being by setting boundaries that protect your mental and emotional health. Choose activities and gatherings that resonate positively with you. Do not feel guilty for not wanting to associate people that are bad for your mental health; even if they are family!
4. Seek Support: Reach out if you need a listening ear. Whether it's a trusted friend, family member, or a professional, having someone to talk to can alleviate the weight of solitude during challenging times. And remember, there's no shame in seeking support.
5. Create Moments of Solitude: Amidst the hustle, carve out pockets of solitude. Engage in activities that bring solace a quiet walk, reading, journaling, or anything that brings a sense of peace. It does not have to be what everyone else does, or trendy per say, but whatever that brings you peace!
6. Listen to comforting music, switch on your comfort shows: Since it's the holidays, there is no obligation for you to be productive and engage in work. Use this free time to listen to your favorite music, to turn to your comfort TV shows and movies. Relax and unwind!
As we journey through the holiday season, remember that your path is unique and valid. Whether it's filled with jubilant celebrations or quiet introspection, your experience matters. Embrace the moments that resonate with you, celebrate victories in your own way, and honor the resilience that brought you to this point.
In the chorus of holiday cheer, let's not forget to listen to ourselves and to those whose stories might not fit the conventional narrative. Let's foster a space of inclusivity, understanding, and empathy, where everyone's experience is acknowledged and validated.
This holiday season, let's make room for joy, but let's also create a sanctuary for compassion for ourselves and for others. And always remember, YOU ARE ENOUGH!
Passionate writer, educator, and literary researcher with a zeal for storytelling and fostering learning.
